Saturday, March 10, 2018

A Purpose Driven Life - Chapter 20

A Purpose Driven Life Chapter 20 - Restoring Broken Fellowship

Chapter Overview: Being a peacemaker is different than avoiding conflict. Sometimes confrontation is required for true and healthy fellowship.  But peacemaking is also not about appeasement (being a doormat).  Rick outlines 7 biblical steps to restoring broken fellowship
1. Talk to God first before talking to the person
2. Always take the initiative
3. Sympathize with their feelings (whether they are right or wrong doesn't matter - really listen to them)  ...

2011 (40 years old)

Sheldon spoke today on circles of influence and the passage he used was in Job - specifically around chapter 32 when Elihu the younger gets involved in the discussion.  He was the only one who actually listened to Job and responded specifically to what Job said.  Then in Luke 2 with Jesus in the temple as a 12 year old, it was the same thing, Jesus listened and asked questions.  Listening is key.
4. Confess your part of the conflict
5. Attack the problem, no the person
6. Cooperate as much as possible
7. Emphasize reconciliation, not resolution - reconciliation focuses on the relationship, resolution focuses on the problem.  I think sometimes at work, people don't realize how focusing on the relationship can really make a huge difference in getting a resolution to the problem.

2016 (45 years old)

Relationships are always worth restoring.  Who do I need to restore a broken relationship with today?  There was a lot of stuff I could work on in this chapter. Sigh. I've heard a lot about 'send Judah first' (worship first) but Jesus said that if you remember a neighbour who has a grudge against you, leave your sacrifice at the altar and get right with them.  Restoration before worship.  Blessed are the peacemakers... who make peace!  Not who love peace.  Not those who avoid conflict.  I don't like confrontations.


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Restoring broken fellowship - image of pink peace letters

  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 1 - Its Not About Me
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 2 - You Are Not an Accident
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 3 - What Drives You?
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 4 - Eternity In Our Hearts
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 5 - What is Life?
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 6 - Life on Earth is a Temporary Assignment
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 7 - The Reason for Everything
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 8 - You Were Planned for God's Pleasure
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 9 - What Makes God Smile?
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 10 - The Surrendered Life
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 11 - Friend of God
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 12 - Friend of God II
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 13 - Worship That Pleases God
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 14 - When God Isn't There
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 15 - Part of God's Family
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 16 - What Matters Most
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 17 - You Belong
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 18 - Life is Meant to be Shared
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 19 - Made for Community
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 21 - Unity of the Church
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 22 - Transformed to be Like Christ
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 23 - Transformed by Thought
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 24 - Transformed By Truth
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 25 - Transformed by Trouble
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 26 - Transformed by Temptation
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 27 - Defeating Temptation
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 28 - It Takes Time
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 29 - Shaped for Serving God
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 30 - Our Place in Serving
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 31 - Finding Your Specific Purpose
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 32 - Using What God Gave You
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 33 - How Real Servants Act
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 34 - Thinking Like a Servant
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 35 - God Uses Our Weaknesses
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 36 - You Were Made for a Mission
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 37 - Sharing Your Life Message
  • My Appendix to Chapter 37
  • My Testimony Based on Chapter 37
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 38 - Becoming a World-Class Christian
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 39 - Balance
  • Purpose Driven Life Chapter 40 - Living With Purpose
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